The first time I took my girlfriend home to let her cook her angry, is I wrong?

2022-07-27 09:14:25

Question: It has been 2 years with my girlfriend, and the feelings are stable, take her home to see my parents. Because my girlfriend is very delicious, I will discuss it with my parents to let them only buy food, but also for girlfriend to leave a good impression in front of the second. As a result, my girlfriend was very angry. I think that we are watching her, when it is unpleasant, then I will lose my hand. I would like to ask for the first time I took my girlfriend to go home to let her cook her angry, I am wrong?

回答：

This contradiction, the responsibility of the boys accounts for 70%, and the girl's responsibility accounts for 30%. The boy's first time with girlfriend, she will make people cooking, and there is indeed a matter of consideration. The person is a guest, let the guest waiter, no matter how to say, it is not a kind of hospitality, but also discusses the girlfriend, but choose the girlfriend on the spot, there is a bit of a bit of a generic kidnapping, natural people Insequence.

1, the problem of boys

1 Failure to think about understanding girlfriends to their own feelings, and feel different from their own feelings.

2 can only see the "girlfriend for me" and "girlfriend for me and parents", and thus feel almost, and Ignore the identity of my girlfriend in both situations. 。

3 Let the girlfriend take responsibility, but they have thought that she is very understanding that she does not discuss or notice in advance.

2, girlfriend's question:

However, the girls gifted by boyfriend first, only because they were asked to cook, so that the other party and parents were embarrassed, and they also considered. As long as it doesn't have a principled contradiction that must be broken up, the trade-off's parents have a temper, and will only make the follow-up.

Maybe you feel that this case doesn't need to be closed, that is, you should break up. But in fact, boys let girlfriends go to his home for the first time, do not mean that their family must deliberately give this girl under Mawei, I think it is below the following situation:

M:: On Sunday, I have to bring my girlfriend, when you buy a good fish, ribs, eggplant, pineapple, tomato, I let her kitten her best dish to give you an eye-catching.

Parents: This is not good, people have the first time to go to the door, let her cook.

Male: Oh, it's okay, she likes to cook, our gathering is generally her responsible for cooking, giving me a meal, she is not more than, let alone give you. And her people are very good, they will not be more than these things. You only have to buy it, just remember to clean your home clean.

Parents: Then we have to replace the two pots and pot holes, and the hood is washed. The gas stove is also looking for someone to repair. 。

Boys' parents may not malicious, and it is possible to just simply do not understand people. And boys are just considered too little. They have not communicated this thing in advance or inform girlfriend, and did not malicious. In the case of girlfriends in the question, in the case of unknown case, a contradiction has changed the other person's motivation, it is negative interpretation.

If the girlfriend can first assume that the motivation of the boyfriend is good, I want to leave a better impression to his parents, then she will not have such a big temper, I can rationally borrow "dizziness" The speech of the class refuses to cook, first to get this in the past.

There is nothing in the feelings of the feelings, anything can be discoval, so it is best to discuss before the decision, and there will be the above situation.